Heather

Doh! I had the whole money thing backwards. Sorry bout that.

I will say (a little smackdown here), that using the money issue as a "revenge" for lack of affection/intimacy is not the right path. That will only incite a cycle of negative escalation. It is a hard thing to do, but the old mantra "I'd rather be happy than right" should guide you here.

Of course, if you suspect that he is leaning toward separation/divorce, then by all means insist on a separate financial state. But if your long term goal (both of you) is to stay together, you should resolve each issue separately. Again, I know it is hard. Its difficult being the one doing the right thing when the other is not. But that is the only chance you have. IMHO

Chrome

Last edited by chromosphere; 04/27/06 05:04 PM.
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