I personally think it is ridiculous that he is trying to do this proportional bill paying thing. That smacks of a lack of committment to your M. But my feelings don't really matter. I think you should state the following boundary (or something like it).
I feel that as a married couple that intends to stay married indefinitely, all accounts and expenditures should be shared. Therefore, I feel that we should set a date at which we drop the separate accounts, separate bill-paying, and stop keeping a running track of separate expenditures. If you want (and this is the responsible thing to do) we can set up a joint budget in which we map out planned expenditures given the combined total of our budgets.
I don't know if that is truly a boundary, but I think it is an appropriate step to take for couples that want to be together.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
