I think the groveling approach, #1, is not necessarily wrong, but it certainly does not garner more respect than #2. It's all just words. It's the follow-up actions that count.
Really!!! That is a surprise to me. I would have thought answer #1 was no brainer because of all the emotion, feelings and empathy it could generate. Sounds like respect is high on your list….. mmmmmm, then again, maybe not so surprising from you (and that is not meant as any kind of jab).
Well, I'll take it as a compliment then. About the unemotional vs emotional responses, I don't know if more emotion from H would have made a difference. Not that he was not emotional about the whole thing, he just didn't show it so much to me. His words were heartfelt and maybe because he Wasn't all emotional, I knew he was "in his right mind" and making a well thought out decision. And he earned respect for that. He told me on several occasions however that he balled like a little baby many a night in his crappy apartment by himself. And I believe that. But he seems to be able to remain fairly "intellectual, yet meaningful" in his responses and reactions to me personally. I can respect that, as long as he is still willing to dole out some hot sex!!
