"Do I detect a little alpha male stuff going on here?"
Not from me, I'm an iota, or maybe a Xi (like how that one sounds).
"What it is saying is “oh my God – I behaved in a terrible way, how truly dreadful, how can that be, how can such a wonderful person as myself have possibly done this dreadful thing. In other words “I” (my ego) thought I was better than that and my ego is insisting I put on this display of remorse so that I can rehabilitate myself in your eyes."
I can honestly tell you that not once during my groveling display of remorse did I think "what a wonderful person am I." Nor did I feel like I was better than that, or felt like groveling was rehabilitating myself in any way. In fact, it took a self-esteem counselor to make me stop constantly bashing myself about my EA.
I do belive some groveling displays are acts, but some of us guys (and gals) do get overwhelmed at times. I will agree that it is not an effective way of dealing with a situation, and I should strive to never do it again. But it was not an act of narcissism or manipulation on my part.
ChromoXi
p.s. sorry if this is polluting your thread Heather
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
