There is a lot of discussion going on that has to do with "your best interest" and "on your behalf". What do you think of all this? Did you take what Lillie, Stigmata and Cobra have said to be gospel? Do you have the ability to glean the wheat and discard the chaff?
We all provide discussion, food for thought and even some pretty direct advice but our ability to perfectly read the situation of someone we know only through their writing is limited. Nonetheless, I have learned a lot here, have been called on a lot of self defeating thoughts and behavior and have found my participation very valuable.
Phase,
I am going to suggest that despite phone convos, bulletin board convos etc... YOU may not have the grasp on Heather's sitch that you believe you do. By the very nature of your now personal relationship with her (when you take it off line it becomes personal) your views will be colored by your friendship with her. You want to protect her and that is admirable but remember, she alone is responsible for her life.
