Am I Creating a SSM Part II

[Stigmata]

I'm concerned that sometimes the analysis and recommendations are being presented as if there could be no errors.

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I won't speak for others but I hope this is not how I am coming across. If so, I need to rethink my approach. I've purposely used an lot of IMOs and "To me"s the deeper I explain and it gets tiresome frankly. Perhaps I need to use more..

I totally agree. I can also tell you that Heather hasn't been trying only one thing for the past two years. Progress, thus far, has been hard to come by. But yes, it's certainly time to try something new. But sometimes it seems to me that the ideas are being sold as "The Answer" instead of "a different approach".

- Seriously? Hmmm. At least for me, I thought I was presenting them as possible approaches. I don't have all "the answers" or any for that matter--especially as it pertains to my own life, let alone OPs, that's for sure.

Heather has already shown a proclivity to blame herself for problems in her M (hence the title of many of her former threads..."Learning To Trust Myself"). I'm worried that if theories, analysis and recommendations are presented very authoritatively and/or with great confidence in their eventual success, she'll apply herself longer than is healthy.

- I find your sense of protectiveness for Heather quite admirable Phase 3. I have to say, though, that I also find your protectiveness as to how she may feel or respond to others' insights to be a little presumptuous. No offense P3.

Heather, again, as I've told OP I must apologize in advance for evoking any type of feelings in you that I am talking "around you." I think perhaps many others here feel the same way whenever someone presents their one-sided, very biased stories. From your posts I have deduced pretty much that you have no problem speaking your mind nor telling OP exactly when they are right, lukewarm, or way off base. I've read as much from your posts--you are the ultimate authority.

And I know you are about to come back on this thread and speak your mind.

Which leads back to you P3. Hmmmm...that's 2x I have seen you mention voices of "authority." Sorry. That is you handing your power over to whomever you are speaking of. I am not only an authority on human behavior but never presented myself as such. Bit of power projecting going on there IMO. I am not confident of any outcome. Sheesh, I can't even figure my own sh!t out. Just trying to stimulate some solution-based approaches along with OP here; and, based on the activity in this thread I think it's working--clipping along in an positive solution-based direction with a lot of feedback.

I've seen other BBs out in cyberspace where the people congregating there merely vent and feed off each others' negativity. Blech. Negative enabling pity-party support groups.

IMO not an healthy frame of mind.

-Stigmata-