Am I Creating a SSM Part II

[Burgbud]

He fought his addiction and has remained sober in the face of massive resentment. I find that amazing. If I had an addictive personality to alcohol and harbored such resentment over an A I think I would be hard pressed not to dive right back into the bottle for comfort, pain relief, and blowing my stack with my newly loosened, albeit slurred, tongue.

On some level it seems to me H respects Heather's desire for him not to drink. To me that's an form of love...and, <shock!> respect.

And you may be right. I know Heather has reason to suspect he changed in the first place and doesn't dive right back into the bottle now because his lawyer advised him that to do so would greatly endanger his case for sharing custody of the children. I don't know you at all, Stig, but I wonder a bit when you project how you think you *might* be if you had a certain condition (that for all I know you don't actually have) onto Heather's H. And from there to determine that H's actions are a form of love and <shock!> respect.

It could well be that I'm just overly sensitive but these are the things that worry me. I think there's a pressure that goes along with, "I'm sure your H loves and respects you". I don't think any of us have a good grasp on what H thinks or how he feels.