Quote: But Lillie: this is where I get tripped up. When she's motioning me to join her in the wrestling pit, and I refuse, then I get accused of not communicating, or withdrawing, or not wanting to resolve things.
What then?
- To folow up the good response by Lillie. Words that stood out for me. "Communicating" and "not wanting to resolve things." uttered by W.
So from your metaphor W's forum is the wrestling pit with W standing there with a fake-bake tan in an tight singlet, grasping the ring microphone and with bulging veins something like, , "Who wants what The W is cookin'?!" And calls Hair Dog out while the rest of the spectators chant something about "cookin' the dog."
Um. These words and your metaphor tells me this is her chosen forum to discuss your R/life issues. Lotsa anger and wrestler-type insults tossed about.
She is trying to steal your frame. Don't let her.
If there truly is something that needs to be communicated or an problem resolved, HD, then I would counter her baiting to an more appropriate forum of either your own or an more productive mutual metaphorical design.
...Say two podiums on an stage with 2 microphones and an intelligent and friendly moderator asking you both to cooly address each of your topics or issues.
Don't let her control or steal your frame Hariy. Try and reframe her calling you out on an issue to an more appropriate venue and time.
-Stigmata-
(who sometimes wonders if the tuxedo-wearing Michael Buffer pops out of the closet when HD's W starts fuming and screams, "Let's Get Ready To Rrrrrrrrummmmmbbbbblllllle...!!)
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
