Quote: NM, to me, that "we ended things 2 weeks ago" would have been a clear invitation to R talk some. THAT is the exact thing it seems like you have not heard before and something that indeed WOULD change the dynamic of your approach to him, i.e. changing the level of the relationship. Maybe there's more to the story, but that seemed like a pretty good thing to me. Am I wrong?
No, GH, I don't think you're wrong - but it wasn't a face to face discussion. And once he said it, I had NO IDEA whether to say anything about "it" or what to do. I was completely thrown off by what he said, I never expected it.
Quote: Oh, and remember, what you THINK you know about SO and OW, no matter how much you believe it to be fact, is likely to be at least somewhat wrong.
Obviously, GH - lol. I mean - I had NO IDEA about this. I mean, I've done my best to try and NOT presume anything about him & OW - that's why this threw me so much, I guess.
Quote: I'm not saying to just jump right in and trust again but maybe it's time to explore a bit more in that direction and see what happens. At least maybe clarify what he said and expand on it.
I think so, too.
Like I said in my post - it turned into a stupid argument. Without any excuses though, I will say - we BOTH knew the argument wasn't getting us anywhere. Evidenced in him calling me back and saying so, LOL. We both knew arguing was being counter-productive. I tried to explain that I was hurt by what I heard - not mad. I told him it wasn't any of my business - he cut me off and said "Yes it is your business" ?? - I did say that it seems like he wants me to trust him, then something like happens. I said (dredging up the past, wrong - I know) - all the things he's lied to me about and how am I supposed to just automatically start to believe him.
