Well, I went ahead and said something about what I heard on the air. He vehemently denies he went.
Hmmmm, what does "said something" mean exactly?
His reaction suggests you went on the attack a bit rather than talking about yourself and sincerely simply reporting your thoughts and feelings.
Were anger and resentment preventing you from communicating in a direct, nonconfrontational manner? I expect that really focusing on your communication skills needs to be at the top of your list these days if you really want to wind up with any kind of healthy R with SO.
Great news about him ending it with OW. Though, if this is the first time he has "ended it," expect a bit of ongoing communication between them along with confusion and drama.
Also, as GH was touching on, try to lose a little bit of your confidence... You seem to be SO SURE of everything about SO. You really don't know what is going on in his life, his mind, or his heart. Try to really develop the beginner's mind and quit letting your entrenched expectations dictate what you see, how you react, and how things go.
