NM, to me, that "we ended things 2 weeks ago" would have been a clear invitation to R talk some. THAT is the exact thing it seems like you have not heard before and something that indeed WOULD change the dynamic of your approach to him, i.e. changing the level of the relationship. I know when my W told me something similar and I followed up with "So just to be clear, we are now in a relationship where both of us are going to be open and honest, right?" and she said yes, that to me was my signal to at least TRY to trust a little more and just BE open and honest with her in hopes that she was truly being that way with me. So far, so good I guess.
Maybe there's more to the story, but that seemed like a pretty good thing to me. Am I wrong?
Oh, and remember, what you THINK you know about SO and OW, no matter how much you believe it to be fact, is likely to be at least somewhat wrong.
I'm not saying to just jump right in and trust again but maybe it's time to explore a bit more in that direction and see what happens. At least maybe clarify what he said and expand on it.
