Quote: It sounds to me as though you are using it to feel connected to SO and have him meet your emotional needs in some way. It may not be good for you to be having him be a source of your emotional well-being right now. Then again, maybe you are really in a place where you can actively choose to take this risk for your own reasons in your own interest without any expectations...
Mmmmm.......NO. I think it's the opposite, actually. This happens to be one of the things I'm good at detaching with. He isn't the source of my emotional well being..... quite the contrary. It's not like I think to myself, we're having sex today so I can expect XYZ from him tomorrow. No. It's not like that. I actually think HE gets more emotionally connected to me through it. Example - we can be sitting at the kitchen table and try to talk about something uncomfortable and it turns into an argument. Get him in the bedroom, get his clothes off, and afterwards, he can open up and tell me what was bothering him. Is this odd?
And, no - I don't think you're being mean. I do understand what you're saying to me. Please don't think with all this added joking around that I don't listen to what you say. Because I do. Sometimes I need to think about things for a while......then come back to them.
Quote: Re the childcare thing, most fathers work five days a week and still see their kids everyday. I'm glad he is at least seeing them more than once a week, which is the impression I had.
No - he's pretty good about coming here on those days that he doesn't have bar gigs. He DOES seem to spend most of his free time here. It's just his work schedule is NOT normal. When he was living here, he saw them everyday. I know that NOT seeing them daily really bothers him.
