Quote: And "I have wanted you more in the past few months both sexually and other reasons, but am stuck dammit, you just dont get it".
Ok, maybe not the sexually part, but my W pretty much is saying the same thing right now. Apparently in my sitch, there are a lot of details (the least of which is probably not that it was a PA) about her A are still being held back. She claims that "it's complicated" and not as easy as I think to just end things. This has been a process I have watched carefully over the past couple months. First, she said she was trying to break things off a couple months ago (around Valentines day) but did not get specific. Then last month, she said that she was trying to break things off but wanted to remain friends with OM. Lately, he has turned into a raging a-hole and she knows shes doesn't really want much to do with him...but yet she still has not broken things off totally.
The point is that by "stuck" I think he means that he wants you AND her but knows that eventually he will be with you. He feels "stuck" because he knows what he wants but also that there are many obstacles, many of them of his own creation, existing only his mind, that stand in his way.
In my sitch, I am not worried. I know that when my W does come back 100%, it will be because she wants to and because she has done what she needed to do in regard to OM. If she needs help with that, I will be glad to help in any way I can.
I just think that they feel like, and my W has said this MANY times lately, this is their mess and they need to clean it up. Of course, often cleaning it up means more contact and at least in the case of my W's OM, more opportunity for persuasion to leave our marriage. In the end, it will all have to stop. She knows that. I know that. You know that, and so does your H.
Have patience. He won't be stuck forever and anyway, the most important thing is that YOU are not stuck NOW!
