I don't think anyone other then yourself can tell you if now would be a good time to have a relationship talk go dark or stay open. You have to do what you feel is right to get your relationship work. DBing is just a guideline to try to help us. There are parts that work for one and parts that don't. Those same parts that work for you may not work for me in my sitch and like wise. Every individual person has to use there own judgement.
Let me ask you what do you think all this additional contact from So means? Do you feel it is helping your relationship and communication with SO as a whole? Do you want to stop speaking with SO as often? If you cut down on the amount of contact with SO do you think it will help or hurt your relationship?
I will have to say that I do agree you need to find someone to keep your kids on a more frequent basis so you yourself can do some outside things that are more adult based to keep yourself interesting and fufilled.
