My Creatively Titled Thread

[RBinBR]

Yesterday when all this happened...as well as when I saw him today, I was the frickin' posterchild for calm, cool, collected. There was no yelling, no crying, no blaming, simply stated how I felt. I think it was my DBing's finest hour.

That is amazing! Wow. That's impressive that you were able to channel all you anger away from him.

That leaves me in a tough position. The amount of contact he has with me - when I tell him to knock it off (of course in much nicer terms), it makes him do it more. When I say no more ML - it puts his libido into overdrive.

So, if you don't give it to him and he doesn't really like ML to the OW, what would happen to him in a couple of weeks? Might it not be enough to get him to get off the fence and make a decision? Honestly, NM, the weirdest thing about your sitch is that your SO seems to be desperately pursuing you, even as he continues the A. I personally don't think you're in any danger of his simply deciding to walk away from you forever.

All my kids will ever think is that she, like everyone else is just a friend.

Highly doubtful. Our kids are smarter than our WAS's think. The very fact that it had to stay a "secret" was enough to tell your D that this was no ordinary friend.