NM Wanted to drop in and say how heartily I have been indentifying with your thread lately. I feel I've let my H down in the same way. The crazy thing for you is that you seem to have *shown* him your support in a million ways and sacrifices for his career over the years - but if he didn't *hear* it, maybe he didn't know. The truth is, I suppose I find that kind of ego boosting, and indeed, H's need to feed his ego with constant compliments, pretty unattractive - I guess I'm concerned that such a strong need for attention comes from some deficit of self-esteem. I mean, if they were as confident as they act, they wouldn't need the attention, right? He wouldn't give up time with you to talk with a fan, etc. Somewhere along the way I guess I thought it was my job to keep H's head small enough to fit through the door. I didn't say anything negative, just lots of eye rolling with over the top compliments from others, and a general lack of ego-boosting from me. It sounds like your SO is good at what he does, and that you think he is good at what he does. I feel the same about my H's accomplishments - but, alas, we didn't let them know! The problem is, they probably want to hear it from us more than anybody else in the world - even though they don't act like it. I don't have a clue how to bridge this gap after so much damage, but wanted you to know I am thinking hard about it too.
Also, my gut is telling me good things about your sitch. He is definately seeking you out, and I think you are close to something changing. Try to notice your opening when it comes. all my best erin
