I think NM has touched upon an imporant thing here...we generally give the LL that we ourselves desire. I guess part of the other problem in my sitch, and maybe GH this applies to your W as well considering how they seem alike, my W was never good at recieving compliments as she suffered from a very low self-esteem and negative self image. Typically if I did give her a compliment, she would use it to point out another shortcoming of herself (e.g., W you're hair looks really nice that way. W: Thank you, but my butt looks big in these jeans or UGH, its a mess!) In turn, she never was very good at doling out the compliments to me. I guess that isn't my LL because I don't think it really ever bothered me so much.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
