Quote: I was lucky enough to have a great childhood and family. He does admit that he has issues but does blame me most of the time for any negative things in our lives. I know better though and I dont let him manipulate me that way. He does try though.
Most experts agree that people are attracted to other people who are at the same level of psychological development. It really doesn't happen that one person is the "sick" one and one is the "well" one. You are attracted to each other because your wounds fit together perfectly. I believe THIS is God's plan... not to introduce a bad, challenging person into the life of a good, innocent person in order to test them, but to match people who can help each other heal and grow.
I don't think you're as worried about humiliating your husband, as you are about humiliating yourself. You're in this together, so there's no need to be proud.
THIS is the garden where you are planted right now, and this is the place where you have to do your growing.
God did not allow the OM. Don't blame God for that. That was your choice. Take responsibility for that choice and for the decision never to make that choice again.
