I’m getting a very strong martyr feeling from you, that you are trapped in this dilemma for some strange test by God and you have no other choice than to weigh which choice is the best of all evils. Sorry, but I don’t buy into this simplistic way of thinking. Your logic, based on Biblical stories, is full of rationalization. The bottom line is that you have the ability to think, that God granted you free will and the ability to tell right from wrong. Rationalize it all you want, but sin is sin, when you convince yourself God tempted you or not.
There are plenty of alternatives to the choices you present. It is up to you to forge a new path, one that creates a win-win situation. But that means turning the focus on you to understand what it is about you that turns your husband off. In fact, you’ve not said anything about your husband that is a problem for you except that he doesn’t want to talk. Why is that unusual among people with vulnerability issues? Why are you soooo eager to jump ship and take up with this other man?
You’ve given us nothing to go one. How about some detailed background on your sitch, at least 3-4 times longer than your latest post. Stop withholding the bad stuff too. I consider withholding information that someone knows could paint a different impression is tantamount to lying. Both tactics are meant to manipulate other’s opinions. Doesn’t the Bible say you should be true to yourself and others?
