Quote: I mean you would at least be giving your marriage and your H a fair chance if you were to say to him "This isn't working for me. I am afraid I will be tempted into having an affair if we don't start having sex on a regular basis.". That way you are being honest and brave and acting as though you respect your H enough to believe that he can make a decision on this issue in an adult fashion.
Aye, but therein lies the fly in the soup, matey. Putting it like that can -- and with mates who aren't relating to us well in the first place, almost certainly will -- be perceived as a threat or an ultimatum. And "irritated" will be an understatement.
But I do agree 100% that if you think your relationship is difficult now, wait until you see how an affair gumming things up will make the relationship seem all the more impossible even tho you think you're taking the easy route.
Especially when your mate finds out about the affair ... and sooner or later, they ALL find out.
Sabu
It's better to need someone because you love them than it is to love someone because you need them.
