Quote: I hate bringing up the subject to him because he gets really irritated.
If you work on the premise that the only part of your relationship you can change is YOU then this is the first thing you have to change. You need to get over your hesitance about addressing the issue. Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel stronger and more confident about addressing it. If you think about it, it's kind of ridiculous that you are considering that it would be easier to deal with having an affair than addressing this issue with your H. I mean you would at least be giving your marriage and your H a fair chance if you were to say to him "This isn't working for me. I am afraid I will be tempted into having an affair if we don't start having sex on a regular basis.". That way you are being honest and brave and acting as though you respect your H enough to believe that he can make a decision on this issue in an adult fashion. Of course, you can't count on him making the decision that you desire. He may decide to work at becoming more sexual or he may decide that he doesn't want to be more sexual and he doesn't want to be married to a woman who does or he may decide (this actually happened to my sister in one of her relationships)that he is just fine with staying married to you and letting you be sexual with other men on the side.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
