I am also sex starved and need help in dealing with all the issues. I read the book and it helped me alot to try to understand my husband a little. I asked him to read it and he started but hasn't touched the book for about 2wks. I hate bringing up the subject to him because he gets really irritated. But I'm also tired and need resolve. I'm attracted to another man and wish I had the guts to act on this but I know it's wrong and would never do this to all involved(H, child, other man's wife/children) How do you deal w/this. Married 14 yrs 1 child. 14 years frustrated!!