O honey i feel for you I wish that I could offer more than cyber hugs if you use instant messengers i use yahoo the most & msn msgr 2ns add me to yur buddylist & we can chat or u can give me a call
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Quote: i'm thinking it's time for my relationship with both my daughter & my husband to change i guess it's time for me to have my own mlc & run away from both of them
I can so relate even though my D16 is only 16. He dad dangles money in front of her to have do what he wants, stay with him, go on vacation with him, see him and (just to keep her from me). You know the game that he's playing & in fact your daughter at age 16 also knows the game having had 2 teens i can tell you that she's also playing games with OW & H You have to be able to reign in your anger & hurt so you can just watch
She takes the bait and I get angry at her for it. You need to try to release the anger especially at her she's doing what in her mind is best to help her be with her dad at the same time she's getting him for what she can get him for
She'll say I can't really stand my dad, but..... She's in Florida with him and OW right now. Thats what I'm talking about as far as your daughter is playing the game she knows that right now her father is trying to win her affections so she's taking full advatnage of the sitch to her advantage the hard part right now will be for you to resist the temptation to do what many parents do & try to outdo her father in the gift dept it's no fun being the parent who's got rules etc but in the long run she'll respect you more for being the strong parent
They're both addicts using drugs. I have no control over them.
This is good that you recognise this you need to be strong enough to allow them to hit rock bottom until they do God & you can do nothing to assist them in their journey home
I'm seeking legal advise, can't take his bull anymore. I'm ready to file. Seek protection of your assets but wait on filing for divorce - God hates divorce, LimboLand sucks but Divorce is worse
consider yourself to be a female version of Hosea or Job at this point Ask God for strength to get thru this & HE will assist You
Sometimes I think I need to just let her live with him and start MY OWN NEW LIFE!!!! unfortunately at the age which your daughter is you're going to have to be strong for all 3 of you
Tough Love is in order for you & it's a difficult thing to watch while they crash & burn but at this point all you can do is allow them to hit bottom
Getting your own life is definately in order for you
the 2 of them are out them doing the wild teen rebellion thing since yur husband isn't being a parent or adult in this sitch you need to be the proper example & be ready to help your daughter grow to be an adult she'll get tired of his behavior in time
what you need to do is work on making a life for yourself empty nest style she does only have less than 2 yrs to be a legal adult anyway
she's watching what you are doing right now your life doesn't look to be so fun when compared to OW & daddy
but she'll see 1st hand how in the long run your lifestyle produces more while daddy & OW will end up in troubles as fun is only for a season & the 2 of them will run into $$ troubles soon enuf as they reap what they sow
I'm so tired of the games and I don't want to be manipulated and abused any more!!!! go rent the movie "She Devil" for a good laugh the most meaningful line in the movie isn't by roseanne barr but the OW's line "I'm taking MY Life Back!" time for you to start setting some boundaries as unpleasant as they are for both daughter & husband you can only be abused for as long as you'll allow for them to abuse you
they will resist & they will test your boundaries but in the end they will respect you for them
do you have the books & study guides by stormie omartian the power of a praying parent & power of a praying wife? I suggest that you get the 4 of these & do 1 chapter in each study guide per week
