My H got his ow pregnant; we do not have kids (not by choice) and he insists this child is his even though he can't possibly know for sure without a test. We are meeting in a couple of weeks with a mediator to talk about legal sep. Same problems: he can't accept that maybe this child isn't his; he hasn't told anyone but me about this; can't seem to figure out how he will tell his family; is very scared. Things are a real mess. I feel getting a legal sep. is the best thing right now. After one year we could get a D if either of us want to. We are also looking to sell our house and I am going to relocate. I just wanted you to know you are not alone although you probably felt like you were. I don't have great advice only because I am dealing with the same thing right now and haven't yet solved my own problem. All we can do is take it day by day I guess. I am sorry this has happened to you. Personally I understand the desire for the paternity test and if there is any legal way YOU can insist on one, I'd do so.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
