There are certainly a many people here and I'm sure in your community to help you.
I believe, but I am not close to the situation, his priorities do not lie with you right now, he is still worried about how his actions affect her and not you.
Whether he was your friend for all those years, seems to mean little right now, but he not thinking of you.
And yes, it is very difficult, if not impossible to try and figure what they are doing when they act like this. My XW has been gone two years and I still wonder why?
