No I'm not kidding. It's really hard to let go of someone that's been your best friend for 26 years and H for 23. When you've gone through so many things together both good and bad, happy and sad. When there's never been a question until now that we both really cared about each other. We used to talk about how the kids would always know what love was because there was an abundance of it and they could always see it by looking at us.
As far as the bank accounts go neither of us has tried to screw each other although I'm sure he has taken her out and bought some things for her. His paycheck is automatically deposited and there's never been any excessive w/drawals. I do all the bills and banking.
I know I need to stop coddling him, you're right.
Yes, there is nothing more important than family. I mentioned a job closer to our home in the same field but with a pay cut and he doesn't want to do this. He likes what he's doing now. I know if family were the most important thing to me in this same situation, I would do what ever it took to be together. This job or moving the family closer to where he is working even though it is more expensive to live. We could rent as he is now and be together. These are not his priorities now though.
I also agree with what you say last
Quote: tell him (when he)
Quote: wants to be responsible for HIS family, maybe you will talk, then.
I know that if this whole legal seperation thing goes through and he makes this commitment to this OW he will have to prove to me not just in words but in actions that he would want to come back. The door will be there but he needs to figure somethings out first.
I will be taking some action but also and mostly will be trusting that God has a plan for me and the children. Thank you for your imput.
