He is still living with you and has access to the house and the bank accounts and has ANOTHER woman in his life and is about to have a baby with her?
Why? Why on Earth would you allow this person to still be living with you? He says it is not about money, then says the older kids don't need as much and YOU do NOT want to put him in a financial strain despite the INCREDIBLE strain he has selfishly put on you?
Quit deluding yourself and quit coddling him, NOW.
There is nothing more important than family and I would have done a great deal to save my marriage, but this man cares about no one but himself.
Take of you and the children, NOW, financially, emotionally, physically and tell him to go take of the girlfriend on his own and if someday he grows up and wants to be responsible for HIS family, maybe you will talk, then.
