Hi there. This sounds like a divorce that definetely could have been avoided. I felt the same way for my wife. Sometimes pride or bitterness over what the other one did can come in the way of how we really feel. You sould like a great woman and that he is a really good guy. Don't play any games and hold resentment. Just work on communication and expressing what you each really feel. He also needs to work on this. He could have told you early on about his feelings and didn't. Hey, we all make mistakes. I did too! Just learn from the mistakes. Both of you can learn from this and handle it in a more loving way next time.
I'm happy for you two. It sounds like a window is open for working on a relationship again.
PS - what you both went through with the cancer can be very stressful and hard on a relationship. Thank God that he's ok now and hope you both have much happiness in the future.
