Hang in there girl. Your feelings are completely normal and ok. You will get ok with this pregnancy, even excited. You will love this child. For now, remember you are on a runaway hormone train so try to be patient. Be patient with your H as well. How many of us on this board were unplanned? Things have a way of working out Nicky. Just take care of yourself and feel your feelings.
Lil, I love that idea! Too funny... H would never go for it but I may just pity party by myself...even more of a pity party!!! ha ha ha
Thanks for being so kind everyone...I know I will get past this and I know alot of it is the hormones...
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
You're right Lil, we've both done some changing. I need to give him more credit. I'll give it a shot!
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Sorry to see you so down in the dumps. But as you said you will fall in love with this baby as you did your first.
I went through those emotions with child 2 who was very unplanned even conteplated termination even though it is against my religion. Second trimester all was well. When I found out I was pregnant again after child three who was still in the hospital and was only two months old. I prayed to God if he was going to take one of my children to take the one I had not seen yet. Which is exactly how it played out. But the grief of it was terrible it hit me after child three got out of the hospital. I was in the middle of walmarts at the time and just broke down.
So I think what you are feeling is normal when your life is teetering already to not be elated at first.
And dont forget that your hormones will make you see H differently. I kicked my H out repeatedly the first trimester of every pregnancy. And over things that were silly.
Tonight if H comes to bed and does not put his arm around you instead of building resentment just wrap yours around him. He may need a sign just as bad as you do
H and I got bad news this week. I went in for my first ultrasound and the dr. could not find a heartbeat. I was 14 weeks preg, and the baby measured 10 1/2 weeks, so it had died some time ago. Needless to say we are both heartbroken. After the shock of an unexpected pregnancy we had both come to terms with it and were starting to get excited and make plans.
Since I was so far along, I ended up having a D&C yesterday. I think the procedure was far more traumatic to me than hearing the words from the doctor. I really feel like I didn't want this baby in the begining and that's why I lost it. I know it's really nothing I did, but I have tremendous guilt. It's such an empty feeling. Our family and friends have been so supportive, and H had been amazing thru it all. He really comes thru when I need him the most.
I'll be around, I am thinking of you all and keeping up on your posts.
Gel, glad to see you around!
Chrom, Happy Anniversary! Hope it's a great weekend!
Chrissy, Are you out there? How are you doing?
Hugs, Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Sorry to here that Nicky. Same thing happened to me before my first. Went in for an ultrasound at 11 weeks and no heartbeat. It is certainly NOT your fault. It is very common in fact. But I know how painful it can be. Hugs. LFL
My heart bleeds for you. I know exactly what you mean by the guilt I to had that after my last miscarriage. And I know telling you it is unreasonable or needless to blame yourself will not stop those feelings for you right now. But adventually you will realize it was not reguardless if you were not over the moon in the begining you did nothing to hinder the babys developement. God does what he does for good reason. We just cannot always see the good or logic of it until it is time for us to. Don't be to hard on yourself and allow yourself some time to mourn your loses. And allow the H to also. This is a time you both need the others support to get through.
I wish you well sweetie and if you need anything down to a shoulder to cry on feel free to email me Crazychrissyme3@aol.com
Chrissy
P/S I am fine and still out here been working 7 days a week all month and trying to get some stuff done so I can sell the house.
I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage last August. It is so heartwrenching. I sometimes will randomly think about it still. Whether or not the pregnancy was planned you had begun to plan for the reality of having a new little one. It is so sad. Take good care of yourself.
I'm so sorry to hear your news. It is such an emotional thing to go through. Around our sons 1st birthday we found out I was pregnant too....only to find out a few days later that it was an etopic pregnancy. I remember what I went through then and can only imagine what it is you are going through too.
