Wonderful news for you, your W and your R. She can't work on anything with you until she has this in check. Your DBing may have pushed her to the point where she needed to do something, yes, by "turning your back" on her, as she put it. It's kind of tough love, isn't it and it may have done the trick. Good news.
Thank you whatis, and I do wonder to what extent that had something to do with it. At this point, I have no expectations for our R, and told her that I will do everything I can to help her through this process...there will be plenty of time to deal with the R issues once she can begin to process her emotions and feelings in a healthy, positive way. I really am so very proud of her at this moment though, despite everything. This is a huge leap of courage on her part.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
