So Rob, has she never done the "right" things in terms of working on your M, or is it just lately that things have spiraled?
The bottom line here is that I firmly believe that you have the right to decide that you are no longer willing to accept this R she has with OM and if she continues it, you will take certain action.
I too hate to hear this, especially after all this time thinking no news was good news.
All I can say is that make sure you take care of yourself. It seems to me like this point you are at can be a lot like the first bomb drop and just guard against making any decisions from emotion. Consider your "big picture" and decide things from the best place possible.
