Good morning to all, I hope the weekend was very good for everyone...
On my front, I feel really lost and helpless today. Yes, I know this sounds too much like a Rob pity-party today, but some days, like today, I feel like I need to vent. The fact is, I honestly and truly do not know what to do. I sat down with my W yesterday and laid a bunch of stuff on the line for her. Her whole family basically knows about her problem and they are just as clueless as me. Over the weekend, we went to visit her three older sisters in DE and attended my nephew's graduation party. Her sister called me last night nearly in tears. Her father and other siblings have talked to me and wondered what they can do, what I can do.....
So I laid it all out for her yesterday...I told her that her whole family can see and know that something is wrong and they are extremely concerned. I asked her to at least get a physical so that she can assess whether she still healthy (which I'm guessing, she's not), but she refuses to take any steps to help herself. I'm really at my wit's end. Everyone in her family, our friends, me....know she needs the help, even she knows that something is wrong with her, but she refuses to do anything!
So here I am, no further along than I was several months ago. DBing has brought me to a place where at the very least I'm not outwardly losing my mind, but I don't think ultimately its going to help me obtain my goal. There is very little motivation for her to save anything, even herself....how do you fight that??
Honestly, I probably shouldn't be bringing this sort of problem to this board and I'll likely post this same sort of thing on another support board, but I do value the opinions of so many here. Its been a hard journey so far and without the help and encouragement of many of you, I doubt I would have made it this far.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
