Quote: but I wonder if she will ever find it within herself to do the same? Positive changes in oneself can have postive effects on another, but to what degree when the other person really doesn't feel the need to change?
Well, finally something that may be a LITTLE different in our sitch. My W says she knows she needs to work on herself and needs the time and space to do that. The hardest thing for me to do is to sit back and watch her work on things that I don't think need work at all (while ignoring things that DO matter IMHO), or that are making her "worse" not better, i.e. loosing weight when she is already 100 pounds and looks GREAT! Most everyone in our lives knows that any more weight off her would be too much yet SHE thinks she still has a few more pounds to go.
Quote: In the end, I have so many people telling me that as her H, I should be doing something to address it.
Ah yes, and these are the same people who would have probably said to drop the b!tch when you found out about the A...You can't FORCE her to do something. Sure, if you KNOW her health is at risk, you can, and probably should do something but other than that, we can only voice our concern and hope it matters to them.
