Quote: I myself have been debating about this for several months and still haven't taken the plunge, but there are days when I question whether I can continue on without that insight.
WTH? You aren't seeing someone already? Dude, do it today. It WILL help, ESPECIALLY at this stage!
Quote: Yeah, I can identify with the last part of your statement. Truthfully, I find it hard to play the "role" of happy husband when I know that things aren't so "happy". Yet, I still try if only to save my sanity, but also that of my girls and my W.
Ah, but that's because you are defining yourself first as Husband and THEN Rob. You learn to maintain your sanity by realizing that acting as a husband is what you do in a marriage, not who you are in life, and when the marriage is failing, then you are much less husband and much more Rob than when the marriage is strong and healthy. It seems like the best place to be is when you can fully be Rob AND Husband without sacrificing either.
It's much easier to be a happy Rob, and all that being you entails OUTSIDE the marriage, than it is to be a happy husband right now.
