Rob, I truely feel your pain. The bomb was dropped for me in Oct. 05 also and I have been on this board since Jan 06.
Quote: I mean, I can see myself recognizing these things and making the effort to have better relationship skills, but I don't ever see my W doing the same thing. And while all these things are good things, what good are they if only one person is employing them?
I'm feeling the same way. I'm debating on going back to my C (see my thread for details) but I feel like, why, what's the purpose if my H doesn't have the same goals as me.
Quote: So where does that leave me and my sitch? Pretty much the same as it ever was. I'm sad, I'm angry, I'm hurt...the whole gamit of emotions. I feel sorry for my W whose life up until October 2005, was very stable but now is nothing but turmoil. I resent that I feel as though I've put forth so much and now get very little recognition.
I also feel this way but I also resent the fact that my H makes me feel like this is all my fault. Like I am a moody, psycho. Instead of working with me I feel like he is working against me. I maybe should read 5LL again, but why? I feel like nothing I do or say makes a damn bit of difference. I have a real hard time doing the "act as if" thing, the happy cheerful little housewife. When I do this then I feel like it is giving him permission to continue with his secret life.
Anyway, I am in the same turmoil as you. My head is swimming. I backslide at least every other week. I question why I even bother saving my M. I wonder if I should be on meds.
The only thing that I am certain of is this sucks! Try to have a good weekend and keep busy so you are not thinking about W and what she is or isn't doing. I know, easier said then done...and keep venting here. There are so many wise people that offer really good advice. Take Care, Mama
