Hiya Sage - I feel your anxiety, simply because many sentiments echo my bad days, and I do not have a baby to take care of. It's like we put all our effort into dbing, and personally part of me feels unvalidated because NG does not seem to have altered any of his outlook
Ellie as always has terrific ideas, I would just add that it may be practical to remember the baby step approach. Change just one thing this week, and see how it goes. As strange as this may sound, my friend back home used to have a baby-sitting exchange with another couple - every Tues Jane and her H will watch Gaby's kid, who was of similar age to Jane's, and every Thurs, Jane's kid spent the evening at Gaby's. Apart from giving both couples date nights, it also allowed parents to 'benchmark' the kids' behaviours, which apparently took care of some latent anxiety.
