I don't know enough about your sitch to comment yet...can you give me a snapshot?
Me 45 H 48 D 25 S 19 Married 20 years On March 15 our son moved out and we became empty nesters. I went through a meltdown, mini mlc was a supreme b*tch for about two weeks and almost became a WAW. I still can't believe my H stuck around for the beating (not physical). I was researching on the internet for a divorce when I found DB. Since starting DBing things are pretty good but I still get into an occasional funk and start feeling like we are growing apart. I have read through your stich, yes, I think all of it and thought I remembered a few times you felt the disconnect and was curious how you thought you pulled you and H out of it or do you just have to let it flow and consider it normal?
