Yeah, this is totally a Mars/Venus thing. Other than the talk with your baby, did you drop any hints for H prior? Or just tell him straight-out?
I know how the asking straight-up for what we want feels a bit out of our comfort zone for we Venusians. But at the same time, we cannot blame our beloved Martians for not being able to read our minds.
And remember, once we start asking our Martians for specifics, we have to be prepared for no action, initially. Be sure to use "will" and "would" language. This language implies a choice and prevents the requests from coming off as demands or nagging. "Can" and "could" imply the inability (e.g. "No, I can't, because I have a broken arm," etc.).
I know it doesn't seem fair to have to do right now, but Martians need to hear respect from their beloved Venusians. Is there anything you can say or point to, right now, to give him the strokes? Let him know how proud you are of him? How much you respect him? I'm guessing finishing law school is no small feat. Did you tell him he is your hero for getting through it all in one piece?
