Great goals, there, gf! I'm amazed that you can be so focused at a time like this!
I just really want to affirm the M&V stuff as you talk to your H. This is one of the things I learned with my SO, and where I know I failed miserably the first time around. Praise, praise, praise. Every time H does something you appreciate, let him know, in short, sweet, simple and direct terms.
"H, thank you so much for picking up the nappies on your way home from work!"
"It was so helpful of you to fold that load of laundry."
