I am going through the same issues with kissing... and it drives me crazy. I miss kissing my H. And up until now never realized how much it meant to me...
That said; have you ever tried NOT going in for that kiss? Or when you both go in... turning your head just a little. She's expecting the kisses to come from you, therefore she can act aloof; hurt you. Change it! Act like you don't care! My H would do that... leave all the 'approaching' to me and at times would turn his head at the last second. I gave him a taste of his own medicine; not vendictively, just 'matter of fact'. It only took a couple of times then H was wondering WTF? Now I'd say it's a 50/50 thing with us. Get tired of chasing F4W. But I'm with you... I sometimes obsess about kisses (I'm talking real kisses)... and lately about the sex issue.
You can take this for what it's worth (this is what I do) but when you find yourself obsessing over that or confrontations or whatever; change the channel. Find a different station that's pleasant; enjoyable, whatever that may be for you... and stay there... don't let anybody mess with that remote!
Also, in alot of your thread; I've seen you have 'possible' convo's with your W. You have them all worked out and they haven't even happened! I used to do the same thing and it drove me CRAZY! Don't do that! If you want to have the convo, have it, but don't have the dialog all figured out before hand or you'll hear what you've already decided it's going to be. You'll never know what the answers are going to be unless you ask them... (I know... up until this weekend I was a the biggest 'head in the sand' person on here!) Things changed alot this weekend...
