Thanks for the translation. I haven't read Schnarch yet so was taking it in the literal definition.
Quote: to whether you and your partner can tell where you end and the other begins.
I can see where that might be a problem. But isn't that PART of a life-long R with someone? In the spiritual sense you become 'a part of each other'. It's only when one partner or the other goes through a crisis that that connection can prove the problem. I believe my/our problem came when alot of factors converged on our R at the same time. And believe me it hurt when our connection began renting apart! It threw me into a tailspin and I reacted out of pain. Then the whole R went into a flatspin. We've pulled out of the dive... now we just need our bearings to get back on course. I would be very interested in reading the thread you are putting together...
I'm going to post on my own thread... had a VERY interesting weekend...
