Motivated by Happy Giant's Post

[Fighting4Wife]

Ok,

venting and hope this calms some of the issues.

As posted, the interactions (kissing etc) have been less than lack luster and the message I am getting loud and clear is "I am here do not expect anything from me." This hammered home clearly this morning while I nuzzled her neck before leaving and she shrugged me off and said stop. No initiation of sex b/c she is on mer period.

I had to email her schedules with the kids tonight (sounds like we are already S/D) and signed them as usual, Love Ya. All the emails came back with short responses and nothing in return. So the confrontation I am seeing is the asking if she has made a decision by her actions. Possible responses:

1) "it is my busiest time of year. I do not have time to think about making those resoponses."
Me: I understand that and can see you being professional with your clients but I do not think that is an acceptable reason ingnore my statement at the end of the email.

2) "You are asking for a reponse that I am unable to give."
Me: I stated that you have time, but again I have stated that I am unable to remain in a loveless, non-affectionate relationship over the long run.

3) "I should not have to say it, I am here arn't I?"
Me: I understand that you are here, but in light of the past two weeks when I extend to you to repair and build our relationship, the lack of a response or a negative reaction kicks up my fear of loss and facing the ending of our marriage. These are my fears to own and deal with and I am able to do so.

Or I can let it slide again, and just deal with me.

F4W