Quote: That is a perfect example of what happens when one is undifferentiated and unable to hold onto oneself.
Undifferentiated? I guess that depends on how you mean that. I have many unique characteristics that are distinctly mine. I believe my confusion stemmed from having too many components! Alot of things hit me very hard and began generating a new 'self', these developing qualities warred (unnecessarily I might add) with the others I was shedding. Yes. I was (and sometimes still do) struggle to keep a firm hold on 'me'. Quite honestly, at that time, I didn't even recongnize 'me'. And though I am still struggling in ways I have found in coming out of my chrysalis that my sense of 'self' increases everyday. And what I find particularly satifying is my ablitites to set fresh R boundries with my H... and in doing so am earning his respect in my own right from him.
So Cobra -- Don't you believe that a person (Even the most 'together' people out there; of which I am NOT one! haha) can go through 'transformations' in their lives that make them unsure of the direction they are traveling? That they have to struggle and labor to find their way out of that dark tunnel? That sometimes they may lose their sense of 'self' for awhile? (And yes, even do stupid things along the way)
