Let's say in the future, I derive enough courage to engage in that conversation (again). Is this not more of the same? Pressuring her to respond. Forcing the issue again into the light?
Lord knows my German side of me loves a good fight or debate, but that is not the case here. Again dealing with issues of fear and abandonement.
If I may presume here, You are stating by offering that opportunity to express what she wants in me, and me either agreeing, compromising or living with the consequences of not changing, I am in turn creating a start to her listening to me and my needs without saying them?
BTW, not being a smart azz, I would lay good odds on her response being along the lines of, I do not need anything from you or you to change, if I had to pick one thing it would be for you to stop having this discussion with me. Her standard reply to line of inquiry.
To this I am would reply "oh" leave the room and deal with that reality.
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
