Things have been less agitated, but the "cold war" tactics still are at work from her. She is less venomous in her speaking with me and actually we have had a semblence of positive interactions. I would attribute this to the dust settling a bit from last week.
I have been giving wide space and still hovering over the chessboard. Thnaks Lillie!
Following Cobra's good advice and really being concious about my reactions and interactions and checking if they are controlling behaviors. That is helping I believe.
Opening up a can of worms here and willing to listen to viewpoints. As I have stated I am still giving kisses GN and GB to her. The kisses are less than (hmmmmmmmm) enthusiastic. Very tight lipped and no kiss back. Sometimes I iniate sometimes she does not. Last night she is rocking S4 to sleep and makes comment while I am leaving room "I am going to bed after he goes to sleep, so goodnight"
I turn around and said GN and gave her a kiss.
It was just what we have been doing since this thing began. We have not kissed GN and GB but maybe a dozen times in the past year or so.
In thinking about this I see an odd factor. We show that affection when there is a leaving or going to sleep. But we do not show that factor when we have a meeting (Good Morning or Hello from work) That will take soem thinking on.
Should I just stop altogether? UGGG! Should I only reciprocate when she approaches? UGG What if the kiss initiated form her is less than sincere? UGG
Am I reading too much into this again?
Thinking of the approach of just stopping and being. Not jumping into the pit of not being satisfied with her kisses and complaining. Or is my decision of stopping another act of control on my part?
Life would be easier with a FAQ section!
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
