I starting to get the impression you have some OCD in you as well. You are hyper focusing on her every move, trying to find some grain of affirmation that she will not leave the marriage. This is suffocating her. You are now trying to find that same affirmation here by asking us to approve of your actions. Can you see this?
In all fairness, I can see you are working hard at trying to differentiate. You are not engaging, which is great, but you are still experiencing a lot of anxiety. So chill out dude! Go take a few hours this week end all by yourself and go sit on some hilltop and just listen to the wind blow. Do nothing else. Just clear your mind, away from the house. You said before that if you two divorce, you will be fine with that. Are your sure? I don’t think you have really settle on what you want. You need a little time to digest everything that’s gone on this week. Take a break to clear your head.
Then after a few days you might see things in a better light and be able to PLAN what your next move should be. Right now you are just REACTING.
As Lil said: <Shaking my head> This scene is right out of a sit com...
The sad thing is that I was there too not so long ago….
