So in this mess that I have contributed to creating, the distance that she is creating is amazing. Cordial and upbeat with everyone but me. I am not over-reacting and find that the anxiety is not as great when I repeat to myself, this is not my issue that is creating this. I am willing to do what it takes to work and repair this (if possible) you are the one that needs to reach the same conclusion. I am conscious of not letting that thought process be non-verbally communicated at this point. I would not classify it as being aloof or arrogant as much as I am not going to take a step backwards and stoop to another meaningless power struggle and argument where there is no direction at dealing with the root issues.
A bit of an update and input on action or reaction would be welcome.
Interaction by me has been very normal, upbeat and nice. One-word responses with no inflection (very Sgt. Friday, "just the facts ma'am”). I do not bite nor acknowledge this childish tactic. In reality it is like talking with my S10 when he is in a snit! So she gets up and I say GM how are you today. One-word answer "fine". Nothing else. I say "You sure, you seem a bit on edge". "I am in a hurry" is her response. I respond, "yes, we are running a bit late" Do the do for the morning to start. I say GB and give her a GB kiss. She is closed lipped and no kiss back. I ignore. She gets that frustrated pout on her face and body. I leave with "Have a great day" very upbeat and sincere. Call for 3rd day in a row on cell reminding me of my pick up duties for children. I thank her for the reminder.
So, in this action I am not sure GB/GN kisses are doing good or harm. My thoughts are I am going to act as we are fine, issues that she has are hers to figure out. I have not initiated any other physical contact with her and we are approaching 2 weeks without sex (something we have not done since the fall out 1 year ago). I have made the choice that I will not initiate this activity for awhile, upwards of 3 weeks, the end of her busy time at work. Even then may not until she does and then I may know that it is safe to pursue that activity with her.
Am I on the right path here, or am I placating her. I am a bit unsure where my "normal" behavior is construed as controlling and more pursuit, or just am I conveying the message I want, I am still here and willing to stay and wait until you are ready to discuss this issue.
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
