I’ve been going to counseling with my wife for almost 3 years now. How much progress you make depends on your self awareness. Right now you have leap-frogged me by about 2 years, just from the knowledge you have gain this week!! You can get to a “comfortable” place in your marriage pretty quick, but that will only be enough to keep the lid from blowing off while you two slog through the harder issues. Do you really think she can let go of her fears (after acknowledging they exist, then recognizing them), her need to control, her anger and resentment any faster than that? Get real.
