Motivated by Happy Giant's Post

[Fighting4Wife]

OK,

Going way out here on the disclosure limb, which I see breaking under the disclosure and I land square on the Cobra Psychiatric Couch. The black one that looks earily familar to an Iron Maiden! LOL!

Here is what she wants in the marriage to date:
Space (generic cop out) but defined by her having peace and alone time at home. Me not seeking affection, hugs, kisses, sex.

Freedom to go out and do things without me or the family. Illustrated each time she goes out turning into and extended time frame beyond what she tells me she will be home.

More help around house, this can be attained by me doing everything since I do a pretty good bang up job.

Sex with her H once a week and no pressure to have to "perform".

Now, most of these things I would be in support of if it were not for that one thig, her infidelity. BIG ISSUE. I did make the comment on Friday's "discussion" that trust and the right to go out and have drinks and such is earned not given freely. I have accomdated her in the past to have my boundaries tested and promises broken, So as controlling as they may sound, it is what I feel. Again the issue was tested and I was painted evil because a drink with a GF turned into a 3 hour ordeal and 1 hour of that was after her GF went home and another co-worker showed up.

My wants (aka the fairy tale marriage according to Mrs. F4W)

I want a wife I can feel comfortable with sapproaching as a friend and confidant and not be judged as in the wrong on issues all the time.

I want to have wife who can show affection and attention without it being asked for.

I want to be made to feel attractive and desired.

I want to not be "end ran" on discipline of our sons. If she has issues then we discuss them in private and not allow the kids to play on parent against the other.

I want to be able to have "adult converstaion" time where we can reconnect about issues in our personal lives. This is not sexual in nature!

F4W, straping into the Iron maiden now!