I will add that I was the OM for her in a previous relationship. While she was still living with her old BF they were not having sex. When we started dating, she wanted to have sex with me and I refused because she was involved. We moved in together a short time later. She also has the pattern in a previous relationship prior to that one. So that is her excape mechanism. Find a new one then leave the old.
First I would say…. Why was it you married her???? …. Knowing this about her past??? … You were at least the THIRD in line (there may have been more). Why did YOU knowingly choose to step into this frying pan??? Don’t tell me its love either. I know you love her, but that is not what attracted you to her. What is it in your past that made such a dysfunctional person attractive to you? I think this is where you must start. Find out what need she filled for you and how to heal that need as best you can. Then start to look and how you impact the marriage. Once you understand this, the mirror image of you will be your wife and you can start to see what her needs are. Only then can you address fixing the marriage.
